When parents force the child to eat, they are unwittingly giving the following messages.
1-We give the message of belonging. You should eat this because you belong to me. This glass belongs to me and if I do not want to put water in it, I will not. Just as I fill the glass with whatever I want, I will feed you the way I want. I make the decision to eat because you are mine. You need to eat, you have no choice.
2- You do not matter as an individual. You belong as a member.
3- You have a problem because you do not want to eat. If you were a normal healthy child, you wanted to eat.
4- As long as you eat your food, you are worthy of me. As long as you eat, I like you. Good kids keep the mother's word. You will eat
5- You do not know I know. I am a mother.
6- I do not trust you, if you leave it to yourself you will starve to death. You're such a kid that you do not realize you're hungry. I can not trust you.
7- I do not see a potential for you because I do not trust you, I want to make you a mold. I want to grow a mold appropriately
Parents who force the child to eat cause the child to be tormented. And the child who is living this punishment makes you difficult.
How do we give food to children?
We must leave all responsibility to the child by making a statement to the child. What we eat is a matter of concern to us. The question of what your child is going to eat is a matter of children. He will decide how much to eat, whether to eat or not. It is our responsibility to put the food in front of him, but eating is his responsibility.
We just have to be encouraging. Sharing the same table should encourage the child to eat together.
What should we do if the child does not want to eat it?
Okay, you may not want to eat this, but the next meal is after that hour. We do not have anything like that junk food until that hour.
It's up to you to eat your dinner. If the child has learned from his experiences, the child will start eating.
We must not force children to eat. Do not apply force to the children eat at your own discretion conc. First the cheese, then the bread, the forcing becomes the conflict.
You certainly do not threaten the child. If you do not eat your food, do not ask me to love you. If you do not eat your food, I will leave you. The mothers should not threaten their children. Do not let children experience trauma. The most important person in a child's life is his mother. Do not scare your kids that way.
Satisfaction of the child's abdomen is the second plan. It should be the first planner for the child to learn to eat on his own. A child over a year old can eat on his own. It is not right to eat ourselves after feeding the child first. The child should learn to eat with you as an example.
You can not raise a healthy person by forcibly feeding the child.
The child must learn internal responsibility, not imposed.
The mentality of the child should be this way.
- I'm the one who can make the choices.
- My mother trusts me.
- I have my mind.
- I can make choices in matters that I'm aware of.
We should always inform everything in advance to give children a habit of eating. We should not do this personally just for the child. We should sound like a general alarm.
Come on boy, come to the table, it is not right to give the child special notice that the food is preparing.
"Everyone has 15 minutes to get ready to eat!". This is the right way to call.
The child should be encouraged and appreciated.